Anti-Aging Psychology

Anti-Aging Psychologist Dr. Michael Brickey

You’re Never Too Old To Flirt!

Posted by drbrickey on February 4, 2009

Anti-Aging Psychologist, Dr. Michael BrickeyAction to take

Whether single or married, dating, mating, or just having fun, enjoy flirting at every age.

Why 

Flirting adds spice and panache to your life. If you are looking for love, flirting is bait. If you are married, it can help you stay married. Even if you aren’t amorously interested, it’s still fun. Unfortunately, a lot of people over 50 sell themselves short with rationalizations like no one would be interested in a paunchy, balding man; or no one would be interested
in an overweight woman with wrinkles.

True if you try to flirt at 60 or 80 the way you did at 20 or 30 you will look foolish and ridiculous. The rules change in our 50’s and older. While many seniors are quite sexually active it’s less about hot sex and more about companionship, someone who understands and cares, kindness, and someone who makes you feel good.  

I recently interviewed Barbara Bellman, author of Flirting After Fifty. Her emphasis is that flirting is a state of mind that includes confidence and playfulness. Indeed. flirting is a type of adult play. She helps Boomers and seniors overcome the excuses and objections and develop confidence. But even if you have confidence, what do you say? You focus on everyone’s favorite radio station—WIFM—what’s in it for me—i.e., focusing on getting to know the other person rather than talking about yourself.

You can give a compliment, like you have a beautiful smile.
You can make an astute observation, like I noticed you seem to be fascinated with that painting.
You could ask for help, like, I’m new to this neighborhood and don’t know where….
Or perhaps you could self-disclosure something, like I never know what to say at mixers like these, have you figured out the secret?
The more specific, sincere, and insightful your remark, the better. 
 

For those looking for love, it helps to be in places where you will have the opportunity to meet the kind of people you would truly enjoy having as a friend. The rest is commentary—how to get to the second and third date, how to handle family, and how to handle traditional versus liberated roles.

 If you would like to hear the free podcast of the interview, you can download it or stream it at www.webtalkradio.net or www.AgelessLifestyles.com.

Quotes

Humor

When women are depressed, they eat or go shopping. Men invade another country. It’s a whole different way of thinking. 
~Elayne Boosler

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Anti-Aging Psychologist Dr. Michael Brickey is keynote speaker and author of the Oprah-featured book, Defy Aging and 52 baby steps to Grow Young. The books and his Reverse Aging anti-aging hypnosis CDs comprise his anti-aging system. He is also the host of Ageless Lifestyles® radio on www.webtalkradio.net and www.AgelessLifestyles.com. 


 

The average man is more interested in a woman who is interested in him than he is in a woman with beautiful legs.  
~George Sand (author)

Sex appeal is 50% what you’ve got and 50% what people think you’ve got.
~Sophia Loren

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10 Responses to “You’re Never Too Old To Flirt!”

  1. jen said

    Great post, thanks. I think that to do it right, flirting at ANY age is all about being open and using the mind to create interest. I love just talking to men who are interesting and not having to worry about anything else. It takes the pressure off and makes it about meeting new people and engaging in life not about narrowing it into finding a mate.

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  3. mayu said

    I will refer to it for anti-aging from now on.

  4. Very nice tips! This will help me a lot, thank you.

  5. Franz said

    Well, my friends always flirt to the older women hehehe!

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  7. Jon said

    I disagree. Flirting and especially if not with your mate is harmful. Feelings do get involved and people do get hurt. Where is the benefit of this.

    Further, thinking outside the globe, many gestures we might use to flirt might be obscene to someone in another culture.

    There are some Gestures to Avoid in our interactions.

    This aside, I have seen a number of romances that happen late in life. We need never be too old to be romantic.

    In an article in Science Magazine (in the 80’s) told of a couple that married at 99 and 101 years of age. The article went on to say that they were found dead in their honeymoon bed, together.

    Yes, never too old to enjoy romance.

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  9. For sure too many people (especially women in my estimation) view flirting as a precursor to infidelity. I wholeheartedly agree that it can be harmless fun in a complimentary way. When I flirt with a woman I always mention as soon as possible that I am married anyway.

  10. More and more people are enjoying their life as a single! We are hearing for more divorce stories each day and people are afraid to take it to the next step and get married! Casual dating is a perfect way

    for a small escape from reality!

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