Anti-Aging Psychology

Anti-Aging Psychologist Dr. Michael Brickey

Online Dating–More Choices for Boomers and Seniors

Posted by drbrickey on December 18, 2008

Anti-Aging Psychologist, Dr. Michael BrickeyAction to take

If you don’t already think of the Internet as a great way to meet people, join the younger generations and adopt the belief.

Why

Whether single and interested in dating or not, there is a lot to be learned from online dating. Plus, chances are you know some single people who might benefit from online dating. It isn’t just young people and the 23½ million single Baby Boomers using online dating, more than five million people over 55 have used online dating as well.

Why date online? Instead of dating being largely limited to coworkers, people in common organizations, bars, and introductions from friends and family, online dating casts a huge net that greatly enhances your ability to find exactly the kind of person you are looking for. I recently had the pleasure of interviewing online dating psychologist Dr. Jim Houran on Ageless Lifestyles Radio. Here is a summary of his advice: Novices probably do best by starting with large free sites like PlentyofFish.com to get a feel for online dating. With that feel, they may want to move on to niche sites. The biggest mistake people make is not investing the time and effort in well thought out postings and engaging photographs.

The other big mistake people often make is not being clear about who they are and what they are looking for. It’s not magic, it’s a process of increasing the odds of success. I especially liked the idea that it isn’t necessarily the most glamorous photo, but often the most friendly and approachable one that gets the click.

On similarity and compatibility, it appears that similarity helps with religion, values, and perhaps politics, and is somewhat important for education and intelligence. When it comes to personality, however, it is hard to predict what works. Finally, Dr. Houran suggested that rather than just matching for similarities, as eharmony.com does, the most sophisticated online dating sites are assessing and coaching. I.e., the assessments give suggestions on where and how to look and how to present yourself. Of course, this runs the risk of the advice being self-serving for paid services as opposed to objective advice that is in your best interest.

Dr. James Houran is a columnist for onlinedatingmagazine.com where he has several dozen articles. Rather than the usual off the cuff advice, Dr. Houran’s columns are solidly based in research and even footnote sources. His “Office Hours with Dr. Jim” column are at http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com. If you would like to hear the free MP3 of the 50 minute interview, just go www.AgelessLifestyles.com.

Quotes

Love doesn’t grow on the trees like apples in Eden — it’s something you have to make and you must use your imagination to make it too,just like anything else. It’s all work, work.
~Joyce Carey

Loneliness and the feeling of being unwanted is the most terrible poverty.
~Mother Theresa

Humor

The big thing today is computer dating. If you don’t know how to run a computer, it really dates you.

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Anti-Aging Psychologist Dr. Michael Brickey is keynote speaker and author of the Oprah-featured book, Defy Aging and 52 baby steps to Grow Young. The books and his Reverse Aging anti-aging hypnosis CDs comprise his anti-aging system. He is also the host of Ageless Lifestyles® radio on www.webtalkradio.net and www.AgelessLifestyles.com.

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One Response to “Online Dating–More Choices for Boomers and Seniors”

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