Making Life Personal
Posted by drbrickey on November 26, 2007
Action to take
(will explain in the why section)
Why
Riddle: What is the best five-dollar present you can buy for yourself
but would be inappropriate to give as a gift to someone else?
I’ll give you the answer in a few paragraphs.
How often do you get a hand written letter or even a hand written note?
For most people postal mail has become just commercial mail.
Something handwritten typically comes just a few times a year.
When it does, it gets a Wow reaction.
I know when I receive a birthday card or holiday card, I think how nice,
display it for perhaps a week, and then it goes in the circular file.
But a handwritten note or a custom card has a hundred times the impact
and is a keeper.
Remember what it is like to be a kid. You didn’t get mail—or if you did,
it is from an organization selling something. It seems like everyone is
criticizing you and you are at the bottom of the pecking order.
Imagine one day you receive a hand written letter from grandmother
unconditionally telling you how much she loves you, thinks about you,
and is proud of you. How would that impact you?
I see so many people complain that their parents or even their grandparents
didn’t tell them they loved them. When I see people at nursing homes,
I often talk with them about how much power and influence they have.
They are often surprised. Many are grandparents or even great grandparents.
They have plenty of time. If great grandmother can’t physically write,
she can have someone write her words for her. All she has to do is write
a letter or send a card with a personal message to have enormous impact on children.
The answer to my riddle is–a box of thank you cards. I’m not talking about
obligatory thank you cards for presents, wedding, funerals, etc. How many
unprompted thank you cards do you receive a month? How do you feel
when you receive one? The rarity of unprompted thank you cards gives them
huge impact.
If you are looking for a good New Year’s resolution consider making it
sending an unprompted thank you card every week–
or if you are really ambitious, every day.
What do unprompted thank you notes have to do with being more youthful
and living longer? Gratitude and sense of purpose are key traits of happy,
healthy people. What goes around comes around, and expressing
heartfelt gratitude will bounce back again and again.
Quotes
Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.
~William Arthur Ward
Humor
Six-year-old Tommy wanted $100. He prayed for two weeks but nothing happened.
He then wrote a letter to The Lord, USA requesting the $100. The post office
didn’t know what to do with it so they sent it to the White House. Administration
officials were touched and sent Tommy a $5 bill, which they though would seem like
a lot of money to a six year old. The boy wrote The Lord a thank you note:
Dear Lord,
Thank you very much for sending me the money. For some reason you had to send it
through Washington, DC and as usual, those jerks deducted $95.
Love,
Tommy
Anti-Aging Psychologist Dr. Michael Brickey is keynote speaker and author of the Oprah-featured book, Defy Aging and 52 baby steps to Grow Young. The books and his Reverse Aging anti-aging hypnosis CDs comprise his anti-aging system.
