Cheerleader Partners
Posted by drbrickey on September 23, 2007
Action to take
Be a cheerleader to people’s accomplishments,
especially with your spouse and family.
Why
Has this ever happened to you? You had an accomplishment or a win
and you were excited. You told your spouse, or parent, or good friend
and with underwhelming enthusiasm they said, “That’s nice.”
What a let down. It’s the answer to if a tree falls in the forest
and no one hears it, did it make a sound?
Dr. Shelly Gable’s research, which she reported in the
Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found that
how you respond to a partner’s good news is more important than
how you respond to the partner’s bad news.
Why is a “cheerleader-partner” even more important than a
compassionate partner? It may be that compassion at best
just brings things back to normal. Cheerleading positive events
makes for great memories. It also provides motivation to achieve,
as there is the carrot of another celebration.
Realizing the importance of being a cheerleader partner can motivate
you to be sure to cheer. It takes so little effort and makes
such a big difference.
Quotes
Greet every person you meet cheerfully and enthusiastically.
Nobody can fake cheerfulness and enthusiasm very long.
You’ll either quit trying or improve your outlook.
~Nido Qubein
Humor
We have more experts on marriage than any other country in the world
and still have more divorces.
I have learned that if you upset your wife she nags you.
If you upset her even more you get the silent treatment.
Don’t you think it’s worth the extra effort?
Anti-Aging Psychologist Dr. Michael Brickey is keynote speaker and author of the Oprah-featured book, Defy Aging and 52 baby steps to Grow Young. The books and his Reverse Aging anti-aging hypnosis CDs comprise his anti-aging system.
